“Surrender the idea that being single on Valentine’s Day somehow makes you flawed. One day does NOT define you.” ~The Single Woman
I was scrolling through my Twitter feed today and I came across this quote. Once again Miss Mandy Hale, a.k.a. The Single Woman, hit my emotion right on the nail. As I try to not get anxiety about tomorrow being Valentine’s Day, like so many other people out there, I have had to stop and remind myself that I am not flawed. There is nothing wrong with me and there is also nothing wrong with me thinking tomorrow is just another day for me. Do I wish things were somewhat different? Yes. But until they are, I will carry on as usual. And I urge many of you who are feeling the same way to do the same.
One year later and now at the age of 33, and still fabulously “single” (I like to think I am forever 29), I have become 99.9% okay with the fact that I am having just another day tomorrow. Do I want the flowers (daisies preferably, I like to be different) and just a simple card?? Yes. Am I willing to wait for the man who wants to do those things for me? Yes. Until then, I have 52 children who will make me laugh and smile tomorrow. And I have a niece and nephew who I love to pieces. Tomorrow, you need to surround yourself with the people who make you laugh, smile and feel loved. Reflect upon all the wonderful people you DO have in your life that care and love you. I always believe actions speak louder than words. Hopefully these people in your life will let you know how they feel; even if it’s the simplest act.
I’m sure there are many people out there who are in a new relationship or just starting one, and I urge you to just treat tomorrow like it’s any other special day you would have with that person. I don’t think tomorrow should signify why someone tells you how they feel. If you like someone, tell them. If you want to see that special someone smile, make them. You do not need a ‘holiday’ to make you do those things. You can’t be afraid to express how you feel either. Tomorrow may be the boost you need to be able to do these things and use it as that. That’s okay. But don’t look at tomorrow as the only day to do it and not continue with it.
For those of you who will be in the same ‘position’ as me, I urge you to wake up tomorrow with a smile. Put on some of your favorite music while you’re getting ready and start your day off right. Treat yourself to something special. A treat to Starbucks or Dunkin Donuts, a cocktail with a single girlfriend ( and don’t go out complaining about men either!)~ reminisce about some great stories you both can share or just relax with a glass of wine when you get home and watch one of your favorite shows you’ve been dying to catch up on or pop in your favorite movie.
Tomorrow is about you and only you. And if you have a special someone in your life, don’t be afraid to tell them how you feel. Carpe Diem my friends!
I wish for you a wonderful Valentine’s Day and a memorable one. It only comes around once year, make it count.