“It is in the letting go that we become who we are meant to be.”~The Single Woman
A great quote by one of my favorite women. I have to admit, without her blog and Twitter page full of fabulous quotes, I would have never gotten by this past year and counting. And, I wouldn’t have become as determined as I’ve become if it wasn’t for her woman empowerment that she makes you feel when you read anything by her. She is the reason why I felt I needed to be honest to single women out there and write something about that dreadful day so many of us aren’t a fan of (and yes, I’ll openly admit, I’m not a huge fan of this day)…. ~Valentine’s Day.
Here’s what I want us to do ladies, I want us to not be dreading this day, I want us to really and truly embrace it and not feel threatened by it. Just because we may not have someone who we are in a committed relationship with, that doesn’t mean we don’t have people in our life who don’t love us. Look around you. On that very day, I want you to stop and take a minute or two, whether it be on your commute, coffee/lunch break, or those quick brief daydreaming moments we hardy ever get, and think about where you were last year and remember how far you’ve come. Remember the people in your life at that moment, who truly love you for you (yes furry friends count). We must remember that Valentine’s Day is not just for couples. It should be a day that we learn to love and respect ourselves once again. It’s also a day that we can reflect upon and remember how far and strong we’ve become.
Now I know, all women have gone through heartache at one time or another and we all know it’s not easy. However, what we forget about is, how in the end of this heartache, we always turn out to be that fabulous woman we once were prior to the heartache. The woman who loved to laugh, smile, and feel confident and independent. Through out the “process” we must remind ourselves that WE are worth it, and WE do deserve happiness and love. But before any of it can happen again, we must learn to let go. We must learn to find ourselves again and remember what made us who we are. And what’s so great about this, is that you might even find something out about yourself that you didn’t even know.
I want you to pledge that on this Valentine’s Day, don’t feel it’s just for couples because it’s not, do something extra special for yourself. Go and buy that fabulous find you’ve been eyeing, or that small piece of jewlery you’ve always wanted (don’t wait for someone to buy it, spoil yourself, damn it!), or grab some girlfriends and go and treat yourselves to a delicious dinner. Just promise me that you will do something fabulous for yourself, because you know what, you don’t need anyone to do it for you and/or remind you. You reminding yourself should be good enough. Mantra: YOU ARE FABULOUS!
I hope this piece helps to be a reminder to any of you who may find yourself ‘alone’ on Valentine’s Day; you are NOT alone. You will always have your family, close friends and most importantly your beautiful, smart, loving, kind and talented SELF. Once you fall in love with this person, you will find and fall in love again.