Learn to love yourself first

“You need to fill yourself up with love. Not anyone else. Become a whole being on your own.” ~Emery Allen 

Every year, I try to remind myself that it is okay that I don’t have a Valentine. I tell myself it’s just ‘another’ day. And eventually I do believe it. It has taken me a good portion of my 30s (5 years to be exact) to believe and know that it is truly okay to not have a “Valentine”. You are your Valentine. You need to love yourself first before you can love another human being.

So many people perseverate on finding that ‘special’ someone. I think I may have found my special someone at different points of my life. Wasn’t it Charlotte who said we only have 3 great loves? I kind of have ‘given up’ if you want to put it that way. I feel that if I have to put so much effort into finding this person, am I really supposed to be finding them? Don’t they say “it usually happens when you least expect it”? So why are we trying so hard to find them?!

I’m not saying don’t put yourself out there. But if you’re putting yourself out there to just do it so you aren’t at home-alone, you may be sending off vibes that you’re out there for the wrong reason. Go out when you want to go out. Join a dating website when you want to join one, not because your family, friends, or the commercial is telling you to. That is what I’m doing this year. Making myself happy and loving myself unconditionally is my number one.

To get me through some of these ‘holidays’ or even weekends (haha) as a single gal, I use quotes that I find to help me get through it. When you visually see something, you can then process it and believe it. I truly believe what you think and put out into universe, will come back to you ten fold.

So here’s to all of the positive and uplifting quotes to help my prince get the directions he needs to find me!! He’s been lost for quite some time 😉